Thursday, 23 April 2009

Positive Thinking vs Positive Imagining

So often clients say to me that they can't understand why life is not moving in the direction they want it to. I can't tell you how many times I hear the words "I don't get it - I'm such a positive thinker".

My response is always "but are you positive imagining?"

Before I explain why let's look at some facts about the subconscious:

  • It runs your body - all those things that happen without you thinking about it (heart rate, salivation, perspiration, and so on)

  • It makes appropriate changes in your body based on what it perceives as your reality

  • It doesn't know the difference between real and imagined events. Think back to the last time you saw a thriller or a horror movie - do you remember you heart beginning to race, maybe had goose bumps, on the edge of your seat holding your breath as they climbed the stairs to their impending doom. It wasn't happening to you - it wasn't your reality so why was your subconscious making all those changes within your body?
  • It doesn't understand words and so responds to the world using imagery

  • It is driven by emotion.

So it doesn't matter what you are thinking about what you need to be in control of is your imagination.

Whatever you are imagining your subconscious believes to be real and is making the necessary changes in your body for you to be able to function. This is OK as long as you don't spend huge amounts of time involved in 'negativing imagining' (something that you may not even be aware that you are doing).

Now flagging a useful technique

  • When you become aware of a negative thought imagine a big red cross through it and say 'stop' or 'no'
  • Physically push it away and immediately replace it with a positive IMAGE that makes you FEEL good

  • The mind cannot hold two opposing thoughts at the same time (try it for a moment think of something that makes you feel sad and another that makes you feel happy - at the same time - you cannot. You can switch quickly between the two but you cannot think about them both at the same time). So all the time you are focusing on the positive image you can no longer focus on the negative one.

  • It does take practise - your subconscious will be comfortable with what you are currently doing. Although the more you make the effort to cross out the negative images and replace with the positive ones that makes you FEEL good the easier it will become.

By doing this you will ensure that your subconscious isn't needlessly getting you ready for an emergency state. Instead ensuring that all body functions are working normally.

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Wednesday, 22 April 2009

Where to start...

So here I am - finally blogging. Where do you start with your first post? I probably shouldn't even be trying to put fingers to keyboard at this time of night (00:14 or should I say morning) particularly as I'm tired. But I've started now so I'll give it a go.

I've been spending a lot of time recently answering questions on the Baby Centre HypnoBirthing Group and loving being able to reach out and share my knowledge with the women who are planning on having calm, relaxed, comfortable births (yes I really did say calm, relaxed and comfortable in the same sentence as birth). It got me thinking that I could reach out even further if I started a blog (assuming I can get some people reading it of course).

So I plan to share stories, tips, advice, freebies here on my blog about using hypnotherapy for:
  • Fertility (I currently have a 75% success rate helping women with fertility issues to become pregnant)
  • Pregnancy (you don't have to put up with morning sickness you know)
  • Birth (calm, relaxed, comfortable - yes, yes, I hear you say but how do I achieve that for myself?)
  • And Beyond..... there are so many things you can achieve with the power of the mind

I truly have the best job ever.

  • That amazing moment when a woman tells me she is pregnant after so many years of trying.
  • Seeing the look of amazement on a woman's face when she has begun her session so green with morning sickness, that she cannot speak, then as she opens her eyes at the end feeling so completely wonderful
  • Reading and hearing all the beautiful birth stories and seeing the lovely baby photos
  • And Beyond.... so, so much more

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